So tune into this episode to stop trying harder and instead learn how to take better care of yourself. On the contrary, we’re trying all the time, to do and be all the things everyone demands from us”.

Instead Burnout digs into the fact that “The problem is not that women don’t try. This book is not a “Girl, Wash Your Face” compilation of motivational tips and advice to prep your meals on the weekend, put out your exercise clothes the night before and get up an hour early. It thrives in the patriarchy, the way mold thrives in damp basements. Human Giver Syndrome is the contagious belief that you have a moral obligation to give every drop of your humanity in support of others, no matter the cost to you. Human givers must, at all times, be pretty, happy, calm, generous, and attentive to the needs of others, which means they must never be ugly, angry, upset, ambitious, or attentive to their own needs. The good news is that Amelia Nagoski, co-author of the New York Times bestselling book Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, came on this podcast to talk about how burnout presents in women and give us tools, strategies and practices we can use to overcome the stress cycle causing burnout.Īmelia and Emily describe women as being conditioned to become “human givers” rather than “human beings”. The irony is that instead of soothing stress and burnout, alcohol makes it all worse. If you’re reading this you know that so many women drink as a way to cope with overwhelm, stress or just not having enough time and energy to do things that relax us and bring us joy. They note, “Nobody likes to think of their kids’ middle school teacher as burned out, embittered, and day-drinking, but she’s not alone.”Īnd Julie is not alone. Burnout: The Secret To Unlocking The Stress Cycle with Amelia Nagoskiīurnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Amelia and Emily Nagoski is a book for every woman who has felt overwhelmed and exhausted by everything she has to do, and yet is still worried that she’s not doing enough (which basically describes every woman I know).Īs an ex-red wine girl, the first story of a woman experiencing burnout felt all too familiar.Īmelia and Emily describe Julie, a middle school teacher whose “burnout had reached an intensity where merely the anticipation of the start of the first semester had activated a level of dread that left her reaching for the box of Chardonnay by 2pm”.

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